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How can you be reasonable without being a pushover?

On Behalf of | Jul 15, 2022 | Amicable And Mediated Divorce

During your divorce, one of the things you have to do is take a stance that protects your interests. At the same time, you should be able to negotiate and be flexible, because there are two people’s lives, if not more, that are going to be affected by the divorce.

Being reasonable without being a pushover isn’t always simple. You want to be flexible enough that the other party gets what they need, but you don’t want to be so flexible that you lose out on the things you need.

So, what can you do? Here are a few tips on avoiding being a pushover.

5 tips to avoid becoming a pushover

A pushover is someone who can’t say no or refuse certain requests. You can be flexible and reasonable while still setting boundaries. Five tips to help include:

  1. Being straightforward about what you need at a bare minimum to walk away from the marriage.
  2. Learning to say no when the other party is pushing for something you simply cannot give up.
  3. Being willing to negotiate for other assets or items rather than the one you cannot negotiate on.
  4. Getting support. Your attorney can help you understand when you might be being too reasonable compared to times when you may want to be more flexible.
  5. Take time apart before making major decisions. If you can, set aside time to think about big decisions before you make them, so you’re not influenced by another person.

Everyone goes through different situations during their divorces, but you have to do what is right for you. While being reasonable means listening to the other person and being flexible at times, it doesn’t mean allowing them to walk all over you and control the outcome of the case.

You deserve to get the compensation, support, assets and arrangements that you want just as much as they do. There is a happy medium for most divorcing couples, so it is reasonable to ask that you get at least some of the things that you want, too, since you’re willing to negotiate.