It’s normal to have concerns when your spouse tells you that they want a divorce or when you have to approach your spouse about the topic. On one hand, you want to be able to move forward, and on the other, you want to make sure you get what you’re entitled to.
Depending on the circumstances, you may have a somewhat decent relationship with your spouse even though you’ve decided to part ways. That’s good because if you can both be reasonable and flexible during your divorce, you will find that it is easier to resolve your disputes and finalize the divorce.
Go into your divorce with the right approach
It’s wise to go into divorce knowing that you will not walk away with everything. It’s unrealistic in most cases.
Although Missouri is an equitable distribution state, there is normally a presumption that equal partners in marriage will divide their marital assets evenly. You might decide not to because one of you put more money into the marriage or because of other factors, but 50-50 is the place to start with your negotiations.
Know your bottom line to negotiate correctly
When you start negotiating, you want to have the right approach. Know which assets you absolutely must have and cannot negotiate as well as those that you’d like to have but could negotiate if needed. Having some flexibility as you work on your negotiations will help you have the wiggle room you need in your budget and finances to make good decisions to help move the case forward.
You should also approach the divorce with respect. Although you and your spouse are ending your time together, that doesn’t mean this divorce has to be a war. You can be respectful while being honest and seeking what you need.
Your divorce can be resolved amicably
If you and your spouse are willing to commit to it, your divorce can be resolved amicably. Build flexibility into your negotiations, and keep things professional. Being respectful, kind but knowledgeable will help you make good decisions and leave your marriage on a more positive note.